LOVE. . . . .

Yesterday I thought about the word LOVE and wondered if the Webster's Dictionary fully described this awesome but complicated word. I don't think so.

Webster says first that it is the fatherly concern that God has for mankind. Yes. . . but, still complicated. Why? Everyone is not capable of feeling that description. Not even some Christians.

Next it says a warm attraction between two. Hummmmm. Still not a full description. A sexual attraction between two. I am not sexually attracted to everyone I claim to love. Very confusing definition.

You can't describe the word Love (my opinion). It's an emotion that is and can be overwhelming, indescribable (surpassing any description), and complicated. I guess that is why we continuously use the word so loosely.

A test. Ask your spouse to give you their definition of the word love (they may start out saying "gee I don't know honey" lol). Listen closely to their description and last ask them why do they love you (they may start out by saying it like this. . ."Weeelllllll I love you because. . ." hummmmm lol lol). Ah don't get upset or scared from their description. It dosen't mean that they don't love you. The point is to view the word from another point of view (smile).

Now you may say "wonder how Vee views the word?" I just did previously (it is an emotion that is confusing, indescribable, and overwhelming.), but I will also describe it as unconditional (not limited to, no conditions to). The word love varies from situation to situation, for one person to another, and unconditionally.

I've also learned that you may truly love someone, but hate their actions, some ways about them, or etc. . . We may sometime feel that we hate that person, but we don't. We hate the things about them and what they do. To some that is complicated, but we have to realize that we are not perfect ourselves. My husband once said to me, Baby I love you with all my heart, but I hate that you do this, that, and the other. Defensive me said "yea and I hate you too lol lol" Later when I was fuming to myself. . . I settled down and thought. . . .He never said he hated me. He said he hated some of my actions. I apologized later and felt awful about saying those words to him. I'm getting there.

So now we are learning to think before we say and I'm learning not to be so defensive. Everyone is not out to get me lol lol. I have a strong demanding voice that can get loud when I am angry or excited. I'm learning to turn it down a notch or 2 lol lol. We are learning that it is not always about ourselves now, but about the respect for each other, compromising, and maintaining what we have and growing on it. We now have time out corners in the house lol lol (we made sure that we have TVs in those rooms lol lol). Actions of the word love.

I'm trying to put to use what I am learning with him and with others. My hope is that he is trying to put to use what he is learning with me and with others.

It's never to late to learn. I will be 50 this summer and find myself learning a whole lot that I thought I already knew. Speaking for myself . . . . I think I know everything (smile). I don't. What I do know (which is a lot smile) and have obtained is wisdom from God. It has been taught through harsh and enlightening experiences in my life that was, is, and will be ordained by God the father for his use for me in his Kingdom.

I never share anything that has not happened to me. Trust me. . . . some things that I have learned and experience has been harsh through my life and I don't wish that anyone should, could, or have to go through. This is true in anyones life. There are things that you have learned and experience that I would not wish on my worst enemy. There lies the words life and living lol lol. The intricate parts of our journey on Earth.

I've cried so many nights and days asking God "Why me. Why do I have to go through this or that, or why the pain." Each time He spoke to my spirit He asked me "Why not you?" He takes my mind back to the scripture describing the Death of Jesus. His hurts were deeper than mine. He bored the hurts of all mankind. His pain was far worst than any pain that I would be able to endure. Once again it was bored for all mankind. When God shows me that, I have to stop crying and stop complaining, because not only did he bare that for me. . .He added that extra ordinary thing called love (that word again) that has a healing affect and effect to my life.

Yes! I am a WHINER ! Note the capitalization! God is teaching me to cut the WHINING out of my life. I've gotten so bad with it that my husband rolls his eyes and walks away. Females lol lol. . .it only works for a little while. Humans get tire of the whining before God does. When God's tired of it (which takes a long time for him to chastise you about it) it's old lol lol. My husband likes the direct approach and I've gone cold turkey with the whining and putting it out on the table with out the sugar coating on it. That is what God demands of us. To be bold with fire, BUT, with a very loving touch to it. . .the same way that He is with us. My Friends. . . .That is one of the true essence of the word LOVE.

Now I am looking at so many things in a different light, including the word LOVE. I'm loving God first, myself second and all others thereafter. My life is getting richer for it and the love. . .although it is is complicated to describe, I am describing it through my walk. I don't have to describe the word any more, I'm showing it. Actions will always speak louder than any words.

Describing Love will always be difficult. The Lord understand this. That is why he tells us that if we love him, we will keep his commandments.

Vee